Worrying And Ways To Stop It

Worrying can sometimes take over your life. Trust me I know from experience.

But Guess What...

It's a waste of time

Yeah its true, can you believe it? It accomplishes nothing.

If you are in the woods and there is a bear in front of you then you have something to worry about.

Who worries?


But certain kinds of people tend to do it more than others. Yes, you can be predisposed, depending on certain things.

Here are some examples:

  • If you come from a divorced family you are 70% more likely to have generalized anxiety disorder, which is characterized by exaggerated chronic anxiety and tension. (According to Robert L. Leahy, PhD, the director of the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy in New York City.)
  • Having overprotective parents can also be a predetermining factor.

Why do we do it?

We do it because we think that we can be prepared for whatever bad thing is going to happen. You don't want to get caught by surprise by the impending doom that is right around the corner.

Even if that bad thing never comes, it's our job to keep watch.

That sounds exhausting just writing it. That was my mentality for a very long time, till I saw the futility of this.

I am glad I learned to not be that way any more because it could have really started to affect my health.

The health issues can be:

  • Irritable bowel syndrome
  • Nausea
  • Fatigue
  • Aches and pains

And yes it can even cause depression.

Ok, now that we know who and why, here is the how.

As in HOW TO STOP!! :) According to Robert L. Leahy, PhD,

  • Make a list of your worries. Identify what is bothering you.
  • Analyze the list. Look to see if your current state of mind is productive or unproductive. Can you do something about what's bothering you or not? If not don't let it bother you.
  • Come to peace with uncertainty. Once you realize the things you can't do anything about, you need to accept it. We all have limitations and so do you.
  • Bore yourself calm. Repeat a feared thought in your head over and over again, and eventually you will become bored of it, then it will melt away. Say it enough times and it will lose all its power.
  • Get out of your comfort zone. Do something that makes you uncomfortable. Don't avoid situations that will make you uncomfortable, go straight for them. This will make you rely less on worrying.
  • Stop the clock. Lose the sense of urgency. Concentrate on what you see and feel right now.
  • Remember that it's never as bad as you think it will be. Sometimes it can all be about the anticipation. The "what if" is always worse than "what actually" happens.
  • Cry out loud. "The emotional part of the brain is suppressed when you worry," Leahy explains. Use your emotions. Cry, scream or punch a pillow. When you are expressing your emotions you aren't worrying.
  • Talk about it. Simply talking to someone about it can really help. And you can get to the root of the issue.

    If you need to talk to someone professional about your worrying, do not hesitate.

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